Five Things to Do to Reclaim Your Life After a Divorce

A divorce can be a traumatic experience, and it may be difficult to get your life back on track after you file a divorce. When you’re dealing with a long relationship and then a divorce, it may feel like you’ve lost a sense of identity, or even a piece of yourself. However, the wounds do heal over time, and you can do things to reclaim your life for yourself after a divorce.

1. Reconnect with your friends.

The number one thing you can and should do to reclaim your life after a divorce is to reconnect with your friends. Many people find themselves having very little interaction with friends during a difficult relationship or a divorce. You can use a divorce as an opportunity to re-establish those connections, and repair existing relationships or forge new friendships. Getting back in touch with your friends gets you out of your own head, and that’s a blessing during the early parts of a divorce.

2. Begin a physical activity.

Maybe you’ve gotten out of shape during your marriage and want to start working out. Maybe you’ve always wanted to take self-defense classes, or learn a martial art, or start running. A divorce is an excellent time to begin a physical activity. Physical activities require time, so you have less time to sit around and mope, and they release endorphins that make you feel physically good. Additionally, if you’re unhappy with your body image, a physical activity can help you get into shape and boost your confidence; two things that are particularly timely after a divorce.

3. Push yourself outside of your comfort zone.

A divorce is a great opportunity to start pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and trying new things. Is there a certain type of food you rarely eat? Specific types of activities you never do? Look at your divorce as an opportunity to re-invent yourself, and try new things. It’s far too easy to get in a rut during the course of a relationship and a divorce, so intentionally pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone helps you break the rut, feel invigorated and learn new things about yourself.

4. Try a new hobby.

Most people have a hobby or two, and you may find that you didn’t have an opportunity to indulge your hobbies during your message. Look at a divorce as a good time to try a new hobby. Want to take up knitting? Stamp collecting? Scrapbooking? Cars? There’s a hobby for every taste, so consider different hobbies and see what you like to do.

5. Travel.

Many people don’t like to travel alone, but traveling alone can be one of the best things you do for yourself. When you travel alone, you don’t have to compromise about what you see, where you want to stay and what you want to eat. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want. Think of someplace you’ve always wanted to go, or someplace you’ve been and want to revisit, and go! Don’t be afraid of going alone; it’s one of the most liberating things you can do, and can help you really get in touch with the you who may have been overwhelmed during the course of your marriage. If going alone is just too difficult, take a friend, but get out and travel and remember what it’s like to enjoy your life.