Enjoy the Little Moments

About a million clichés exist to describe the pain and unpleasantness that everyone deals with. “Into every life a little rain must fall,” or “beautiful light is born of darkness” are just a couple of examples of the things people say to minimize the unhappiness we all suffer from time to time. The thing about clichés is that they’re often true, which is why they stick around, even though they’re clichés.

The unhappiness you feel as you’re going through your divorce is fleeting, just like all happiness and unhappiness in life. In time, you’ll have other worries, and you’ll recover from your divorce. What you’re going through today will seem like distant history. That may not necessarily be a comfort, now, but it’s something to keep in the back of your head for when you’re feeling particularly down.

In the meantime, enjoy the little moments in life. Even while you’re going through a divorce, it’s ok to feel joy and take pleasure in small things. How do you reach those moments?

  • Go to a movie by yourself.

Going to a movie by yourself is a great way to get away and create some quiet space for yourself. Sitting in the dark, all alone, losing yourself in the story is a great way to forget about the thousands of little details and unhappiness you’re dealing with as you go through a divorce. It’s only a temporary relief, but your troubles may feel less troublesome when you emerge into the light, and you know you can always go back to the movies if things get tough again.

  • Treat yourself to a cup of coffee at a café.

Sitting quietly in a café, drinking a cup of coffee and watching the world go by can be a relaxing pastime. You could bring a book to read, or a newspaper. Or you could just sit and watch the people walk by through the windows. One day, you’ll be one of those people, walking by on your way to work, no worries about a divorce looming over your head. All you have to do is bide your time.

  • Go for a walk in the rain.

As kids, we have a joy and appreciation for the simple things in life that we seem to lose as adults. The next time you get a cool rain on a warm summer day, go for a walk. Yes, your clothes will get wet. But they’re just clothes – you can throw them in the dryer when you get home. Enjoy this impulsive way to connect with the world and just be in a moment.

  • Sit on your porch and sip iced tea on a warm summer day.

Few things are nicer than a cool drink on a warm summer day. Just sitting and being contemplative on your porch can be a good way to relax and reconnect with the world around you. Look at the grass. Appreciate the flowers. Wave to your neighbors. Enjoy the cool drink and the warm sunshine, and then get back to your hectic day.

  • Find a moment or an hour to escape and just be.

Regardless of your particular pleasure, it’s vital to escape from your worries every now and then and just be. You don’t even have to enjoy yourself, although an escape from worries may be enjoyment enough. Just take a break from worrying and stressing, and stop and smell the roses. You’ll find your divorce a lot more tolerable, and in time, all the stress will fade.