Archives for October 2008

Divorce Hurts Everyone.

I just came across this surprising article about actor Bill Murray . I will always remember Bill Murray as the bumbling, hapless groundskeeper in Caddy Shack. Mr. Murray, however, has come a long way. Bill Murray received critical acclaim for his acting skills in movies like “Lost in Translation,” “Broken Flowers,” and “Groundhog Day.” The financial success, of course, accompanied his rising star. Plus, he was married to a wife he loved for 11 years, quite an accomplishment in Hollywood.

Then, the bottom fell out of his life. His wife, Jennifer, unexpectedly filed for divorce in May. She accused him of abuse and addiction. You would think that someone who had so much going for him could handle a divorce.

Not so.

Mr. Murray said “I was dead. Broken.”

“It’s like your faith in people is destroyed because the person you trusted the most you can no longer trust at all.”

No one, and I mean no one who is human, has an easy time going through a divorce. It will hurt. You will lose sleep. You may feel “dead, broken.”

To help lessen the pain, you must first admit that it’s there. Don’t run from the pain – admit it’s there and accept that it will be there for a while. Then, find others who are also hurting like you are and talk to them. And remember, as the Bible says, “This too shall pass.”